How to Deal with His Bachelor Party

Your big day is on the horizon and more than likely you’re catching yourself looking down at the rock adorning your left ring finger as you get lost in daydreams of marrying your prince charming in the very same church where your grandparents were wed 60 years ago, the clean white dress you will wear as you dance the night away to Frank Sinatra, and the tiny little figurines that will top the 8-tier Italian crème cake that you and your brand new husband will feed one another as teary-eyed onlookers sigh and long for a love as perfect as yours…

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As much as you’d like to think that your fiancé is drifting off into the same whimsical Brides wonderland as you, chances are that he’s thinking more along the lines of an obscene amount of alcohol, scantily-clad women, and epic stories of a night that he can’t remember—chances are he’s thinking about the words that will send a chill down any bride-to-be’s spine:  his bachelor party. 

So that your relationship doesn’t meet its demise due to his one last night of freedom before the two of you meet at the altar, be sure to check out the following tips for dealing with your fiancé’s bachelor party:

Communicate.  Every bride has heard horror stories of men letting loose, setting the town ablaze and leaving nothing but ashes in the wake of the debauchery on their final night out as a single dude—so of course you have your concerns.  But don’t keep these worries bottled up inside.  Instead, sit down with your fiancé to ask him what the plans are for the party and to determine limits that would allow you feel more at ease.  Talk about what you find acceptable and what you don’t, discuss your own definitions of “wild and crazy” and come to a mutual agreement on comfortable boundaries.  He is marrying you and he of course wants you to be happy—so honestly and openly communicate any troubles you may have while being mindful not to turn into a nagging bridezilla.

Give him your trust.  Without trust as the foundation of your relationship, don’t expect your marriage to be built on one that is sturdy.  If he has never done anything to betray you or mar the relationship by lying, cheating or any other kind of scandalous behaviour, then there is no reason not to trust your fiancé—so give the man a little credit when it comes to the bachelor party.  However, if he has done those things, then you might have more to worry about than just a night out with the guys…  

Let him have his party.  It’s likely that you are planning a bachelorette shindig of your own to celebrate your last bit of singleness before you tie the knot, right?—so you can’t expect to have your own party and not give him the chance to have one too—it’s only fair that the same rules that apply to him apply to you as well.  If you put your foot down and don’t allow your fiancé to have his bachelor party, you are going to come off as overbearing and controlling…and what guy is going to want to be married to a wife like that?  As much as you may be dreading it, do your best to understand that the bachelor party is a timeless ritual for men and something to which your fiancé is sure to be looking forward.  

Stay calm and carry on.  If on the night of the bachelor party you are at home, pacing back and forth, waiting for your phone to ring, crying into a tub of ice-cream as you watch horrifying scenes from The Hangover and torturing yourself with thoughts of your future husband blackout drunk with ladies in barely-there-ensembles putting their grime-y mitts on your rightful property—well, then you have got to pull it together, sister!  Doing this will only drive you crazy.  Instead of trying to imagine every play by play that him and his idiot friends are making, plan something for yourself that very same night—whether it’s your bachelorette party or a low-key wine night with your brigade of best gal pals, focusing your mind elsewhere will help you to relax and even have a little fun of your own!

Joe Morris is a guest post author who enjoys writing about Bridess and the planning that goes into them.  In addition, Joe owns Best Internet Dating Sites where he provides advice to online singles about safe dating on the web.  

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