Showing posts with label Brides preparations. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Brides preparations. Show all posts
Friday, April 25, 2014

The legalities and practicalities behind religious ceremonies

If you have chosen to have a religious ceremony no matter what denomination you are you must follow a certain few steps before and on the Brides day itself which will depend on the customs and ceremonies of the Church or religious body which is carrying out the ceremony. 


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Churches of different denominations vary in their requirements for marriage which is evident in the process leading up to the marriage itself. You need to contact the solemniser of the Church in which you wish to marry, as soon as possible. The Church should be one of the first things that you book for your Brides. The requirements for your marriage will then be discussed with you. It is your responsibility to ensure that the person you wish to solemnise your marriage is on the Register of Solemnisers. You can find a list of registered solemnisers at
The General Register Office. Temporary registrations of solemnisers of religious marriages are possible for those who only wish to solemnise a specific marriage or to solemnise marriages for a specific period of time.


General Religious Marriage Requirements



 - The venue for a religious marriage is a matter for the authorities of the church or religious body under whose auspices the marriage is being performed.


 - All marriages, civil or religious, must take place at venues which are open to the public.


 - The ceremony must be performed in the presence of two witnesses who are both over 18 years of age.


 - Both parties must make two declarations: that neither of them knows of any
impediment to the marriage and that they accept each other as husband and wife.


 - At the end of the ceremony, the solemniser, the couple, and the witnesses must all sign the Marriage Registration Form (MRF) which you will have received when you gave notification for your intent to marry and visited the registrar. This form needs to be returned to a registrar within one month of the ceremony, so that the marriage can be civilly registered. You will then be able to obtain a civil marriage certificate. 



 - There will be a charge for your religious ceremony, this varies per Church so will be discussed at your first meeting.


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The Pre Marriage Course


Most parishes require that you attend a pre-marriage course in preparation for the Brides. Advance registration is necessary if places are limited. Some religions do not require a pre-marriage course but it is looked on much better than if you failed to attend one. Check out some websites that can provide you with some more information and how to book: Prices range from €100 to €140 depending on who is conducting the course. 


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 The Pre-Nuptial Enquiry Form (Catholic Church)

You will need to complete a pre-nuptial enquiry form. This form should be completed by the priest of the parish in which you currently live. You will need the following for completion of the pre-nuptial enquiry form:

 
 - Baptism and confirmation certificates

 - Letters of freedom
(A letter of freedom is a statement from the priest of the parish in which you currently live stating that you have not been married before.)

 - Pre-marriage course completion certificate (if required)

  - Marriage Registration Form

  - Important details
 (i.e. contact details, dates of birth, occupations, parent’s contact details, and details of two witnesses).

  - Questions regarding faith.
The priest will also ask you a number of questions regarding the practice of your faith as a married couple and the intention to bring your children up within the Catholic faith
Here is a Sample Pre Nuptial Enquiry Form


Inter Church & Inter Faith Marriages

If a Catholic wishes to marry a Christian of another denomination they must ask for a dispensation from their local bishop. The granting of this is dependant upon the promise of the Catholic party to ensure that their future children will be baptised in the Catholic Church and brought up in the faith. The minister of the non-Catholic partner may take part in the Brides ceremony (if you would like), with the agreement from the priest. You don’t necessarily have to have mass during your Brides service as guests who are not Catholics would be unable to receive Communion. Permission may be granted for the non-Catholic partner to receive Communion should you decide to include a Brides Mass.

In the event of the marriage ceremony being held in the Church of another denomination it is necessary to ask for a Dispensation of Form; that is permission to be married by the rites of another church. Again, this permission is granted by the diocesan bishop.

When a Catholic wishes to marry a person who is not baptised, or who is a member of another faith, they must seek a dispensation from the bishop. This is called a Disparity of Cult dispensation.


Take some time to read through the websites that are outlined above to make sure you have carried out all the necessary paperwork in the lead up to the Brides. There is nothing better than being prepared for the best day of your life in every aspect!
Thursday, September 12, 2013

Through The Eyes of a Bridesmaid - The Run Up to the Brides - Part 1

Last Saturday 7th September my sister Emma Gledhill married her childhood sweetheart Alex Richardson. The ceremony took place in the beautiful 'All Saint's Church' in Raheny and the dinner in the magical 'Clontarf Castle'. The day itself can be described in one word and that is.........perfect.

As Emma's sister and maid of honour I was able to keep in close with the activities that were being organised for the big day. She had everything very much planned to a T so any ideas I gave were more for inspiration and support. Her organisational skills were fantastic and really shone in the day itself. Watching her organise everything made me appreciate how difficult it must be to organise your own Brides day whilst working, maintaining a relationship and running a household. Quite demanding and you of course want all your own expectations to be met as well as those of others!
 
Most of the planning fell into place bit by bit till we came to the day before the Brides. Both mothers of the newlyweds to be gathered in the church to organise the floral displays whilst the bridesmaids went to the beauticians 'Urban Beauty' in Rathmines for pedicures and manicures followed by a fabulous lunch. We were sent photographs from the church as the day went on, things were starting to look magnificent.
 
 
 
 
A few things to think of the days before your Brides, especially if you are meeting family in the run up and have appointments. Fortunately, we managed all the daily activities ok. Here are a few things that I noted:
 
- Ensure you have all you cheques/cash ready in envelopes for your suppliers
 
- Make sure you are packed for your honeymoon and for the hotel at least a few days before (remember to include a hanger and cover for your dress to bring home - tip direct from the bride!)
 
- Buy breakfast products for your bridal party for the morning of the Brides e.g. juices, yoghurts, muffins, pastries, fruit
 
- Everyone should eat lunch its a long day. We ordered a platter of sandwiches which was ideal
 
- Organise some treats or quiet games for any flower girls or pageboys for the church
 
- Drop any suitcases, favours, bathroom baskets, guestbooks etc to your venue
 
- It is a nice idea to have the church rehearsal two days before the Brides so you don't have to worry about that the night before the Brides
 
- Give a nominated bridesmaids number to any suppliers dropping things over in the morning e.g. florist to ensure the bride isn't getting frazzled by minor details
 
- Update the groom on the bride after they have said their goodbyes. He will want to know how she is. It is the bride's job to be nervous about the Brides and the groom's job to be worried about the bride.
 
 
- Do not fret about the weather, its going to do what it wants but purchase enough umbrellas!!
 
 
That evening there were family occasions on both Emma and Alex's sides as a lot of the guests were from out of town. This was the time Emma and Alex had to say goodbye to each other and this brought me to tears as it was where the nerves really started to show. The next time they would see each other she would be in a Brides gown and they would be leaving that church married! After attending both and having just a few drinks with the bride and other bridesmaids we headed home for some camomile tea and last run though of the events that would happen in the morning. Emma made a schedule of who would get their hair/make up done and at what time. This was such a great idea as we felt very organised. We hung the dresses and prepped what we could for breakfast, both of us very excited.
 
How would we sleep!!!???
 
 
 
 
To be continued!.............